Today has been a great day so far. It almost makes up for yesterday’s awkward “gathering”. I had an amazing catch-up session with my friend, Charlotte. We met at Marina Crescent and had breakfast overlooking the water. The weather was warm, but the fans made it bearable. It’s the 19th of April and already the temperature has reached 37 Celsius!
Charlotte and I spent three hours talking about almost everything. The last year was a life-changer for her. She got pregnant and gave birth. Motherhood has been an incredible journey for her. It’s been fascinating to watch her growth and the subtle nuances of her personality shift. She has always been very independent, but generous and incredibly helpful to others with her time and energy. Her transformation into Momma Bear seemed like a natural progression to me, but she had been taken aback at how she got here.
Charlotte discussed the various difficulties that she went through in order to adapt to motherhood and marriage. There has been a need for communication and compromises. The underlying theme of our rambling conversation was, “Follow your dreams.”
Charlotte confessed that one thing she has been thinking of a lot recently is writing. We have always corresponded via email over the years and I believe she has an interesting writing voice. I’ve always enjoyed getting emails detailing her observations of the various locales she’s frequented during her travels around the globe. During her time in a particular country, her emails got so fascinating I urged her to start a blog. Due to time constraint due to her busy schedule the idea never really took off the ground but the desire remained. She continued to email whenever she could and it was fun getting snippets of her adventures.
One of the funniest moments of the breakfast was when she told me that one thing that might suit me was self-publishing. She thought since I enjoyed writing, I could pursue it. I confessed that I was actually working on that. I told her about my journey, how this has been something I first began researching in 2010 and hoped to get serious about in 2012. We discussed the various reasons I didn’t accomplish my goals for self-publishing in 2012 but that I did manage to self-publish a short novella in 2013. It’s strange, but this was the first time I spoke to someone about what I’ve been up to. I internalize my work and only discuss it on the blog. I tend to be vague when I discuss it with my friends. They know I am interested in writing and that I’m pursuing it but they don’t have any details beyond that. Oh, I have told them that I’m working on a fantasy novel too, but that’s pretty much it.
It was liberating to tell Charlotte my hopes and dreams for this path. I have a five-year plan in place with various milestones that I hope to touch upon along the way. My main goal is to reach people and have readers fall in love with the characters and worlds I create. I would love it if I could make enough of a living doing this to retire my Corporate Life Chronicles, but it’s still okay if I don’t.
I confessed that I felt that I wasted a lot of time getting here but I’m happy at the pace I’m setting and working at. I’m content with where I am at the moment but have slight regrets that I couldn’t get my act together earlier. Charlotte said that sometimes the timing isn’t right, and I agree with that. I had issues to work through at the time. What helped is that even though I wasn’t writing much, I was still learning and educating myself. I’ve followed scores of people on their self-publishing path and tried to learn from their experiences so that I can side-step any pitfalls. As for the issues of 2012/3, I’ve gotten most of them out of my system and I am ready and willing to be serious about my craft.
As soon as I got home, I realized that Charlotte and I touched upon common threads that Lisa and I discussed last Saturday. Funnily enough, we had been at Marina Crescent during that chat too. And during that talk Lisa told me that she had penned a relationship novel. She was inspired by the books she would buy and read and realized they didn’t convey the reality of her relationships. So she decided to write about them. She’s in talks with a local publishing house and they’re going to try to get it out and on shelves by year-end. Yes, that quick! The publishing world works differently in this side of the world. Lisa’s one of the few friends I had discussed my writing goals with at the beginning. She used to be a writer but gave it up so I’m really excited that she’s done this. I can’t wait to get a copy of her book.
Follow your dreams. Don’t regret wasted opportunities or wasted time. Focus on the here and now and do what needs to get done. Set goals. Don’t stress over timetables and deadlines. As long as you’re on the path, that’s all that matters.